Victims of Abuse and Paranoia

Children, innocent, gullible, and wanting to please and make others happy. Take those ingredients and combine them with a manipulative, cunning, self absorbed individual who will go to any extreme to instill trust, to get their needs met and you have victimization and induced paranoia. Of course paranoia does not occur that quickly. True paranoia becomes so pathological, that one begins to distrust everyone, wary of all, looking around the corner, even parking a car backwards into a parking lot. True paranoia will effect your life to the point that your job, relationships, and home life deteriorate.

The first step has to be a re-occurrence of breaking trust. You believe the individual after you have been hurt, and allow yourself to get hurt again and again, which equals feeling stupid, low self esteem and questioning your own judgment. You may begin to feel that you deserve being hurt.As a child this plays out in a variety of ways. Poor grades, not wanting to participate, hurting others, etc. Imagine, trusting your father or mother, they hurt you emotionally or physically , apologize profusely, and then give you gifts and getting hurt again. Thus is the life of a victim. Not just a victim of sex abuse, but physical abuse and emotional abuse as well.

Hyper vigilance is much more common, a wariness of others, and if one should be hurt in a relationship many times victims chalk it up to, “well what else should I expect, see how stupid I am, I might as well live with it.” The paranoia, hyper-vigilance is insidious, and lasts a lifetime. It can be toned down, one can achieve a sense of wellness about them; however do not fool yourself thinking you will eventually resolve all of it. It becomes a honed protective mechanism, a survival skill. yes, victims can enjoy life, and relationships, however be aware there is always a little bit of a guard up.

Through recognition, hard intra-personal work, and empowering yourself all victims can achieve a level of happiness and awesome relationships. Do not neglect, or overlook the effects of the abuse, the fall out can help you understand the looking over  the shoulder syndrome, and no you are not just checking for dandruff. The boogie man did exist, he was real, but not anymore. You can protect yourself, once you learn how, you may parallel park with ease, on the road of life.

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