Comments on: Self Empowerment http://www.abovehisshoulders.com Book offering a true account of child sexual abuse, its impact on relationships, and the emotional survival and healing Fri, 30 Apr 2010 15:17:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Dan Williams http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/treatment-options/self-empowerment/comment-page-1/#comment-2624 Dan Williams Tue, 05 Jan 2010 17:08:51 +0000 http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/?page_id=264#comment-2624 Thank you Lisa, your compliments are appreciated. I hope to help others with my experience. Thank you again. Dan Williams Thank you Lisa, your compliments are appreciated. I hope to help others with my experience. Thank you again.

Dan Williams

]]> By: lisa Mends http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/treatment-options/self-empowerment/comment-page-1/#comment-2623 lisa Mends Tue, 05 Jan 2010 17:00:54 +0000 http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/?page_id=264#comment-2623 i read your book and was shoked by the sence of strenght you have shown . i have recomended this book to my friends to show them the strenght you had to redeam yourself and over come this horrific experience. thank you for sharing your expierience with us. your are an excellent writer! (this is on my list of favorites :) ) i read your book and was shoked by the sence of strenght you have shown . i have recomended this book to my friends to show them the strenght you had to redeam yourself and over come this horrific experience. thank you for sharing your expierience with us. your are an excellent writer! (this is on my list of favorites :) )

]]> By: Dan Williams http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/treatment-options/self-empowerment/comment-page-1/#comment-2611 Dan Williams Mon, 14 Dec 2009 21:25:04 +0000 http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/?page_id=264#comment-2611 Thank you for your reply and support. I will try to address a few of your issues and comments. Regarding Catholic priests and their payout. Money unfortunately will never make amends for the pain, hence this is why I would not sue my perpetrator. It is not an issue of chastity with pastors or priests. Sexual perpetrators are into control, for the most part anyway. I have had patients who were impotent and still abused. I am so happy for you that you found Jesus Christ to walk with, for me religion is much, much different than spirituality. Whether someone finds Jesus Christ, Buddha, Allah or Wakan Tanka, what is important is that find inner peace through prayer and walk their own walk. When we draw opinions and point fingers and insist there is only on and only one walk with God we walk dangerous ground of arrogance and condensation. This may not be intentional, however we must lead by example and be all loving and accepting. When that self actualization occurs we display humility and true growth. Thank You so much, In Peace and Healing Dan Wiliams Thank you for your reply and support. I will try to address a few of your issues and comments. Regarding Catholic priests and their payout. Money unfortunately will never make amends for the pain, hence this is why I would not sue my perpetrator. It is not an issue of chastity with pastors or priests. Sexual perpetrators are into control, for the most part anyway. I have had patients who were impotent and still abused.

I am so happy for you that you found Jesus Christ to walk with, for me religion is much, much different than spirituality. Whether someone finds Jesus Christ, Buddha, Allah or Wakan Tanka, what is important is that find inner peace through prayer and walk their own walk. When we draw opinions and point fingers and insist there is only on and only one walk with God we walk dangerous ground of arrogance and condensation. This may not be intentional, however we must lead by example and be all loving and accepting. When that self actualization occurs we display humility and true growth.

Thank You so much,
In Peace and Healing
Dan Wiliams

]]> By: Andrea http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/treatment-options/self-empowerment/comment-page-1/#comment-2610 Andrea Mon, 14 Dec 2009 02:31:01 +0000 http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/?page_id=264#comment-2610 As a child abuse survivor (many beatings later), I think very kindly about 95% of your comments. The thread of karma can refer to anyone's religion. I also believe that as the Roman Catholic Chuch has paid out over $1 Billion in claims against predatory priests molesting small children, that one has to sit back and wonder if chastity is appropriate for a pastor. However, as humans, we all slip and fall. As a committed Christian, I have watched those around me (not many, thank heavens!) fall in many different ways, to gossip, affairs, absconding with other's money and yes, a couple to child molestation or "over beating" by the "religious" parent. But to put all religion in a garbage bag and throw it away, is not perhaps the most ideal concept. What I have learned by reading my bible and attending my evangelical church, is that when two or three are gathered in the name of Jesus, THAT is church. It is not about the decorations, trappings, rules, boards of elders, it is about having a real, lively, fun relationship with Jesus who came to earth to testify to the truth, and to die on the cross so we can all have eternal peace in heaven. It doesn't mean you have to go anywhere any Sunday. Accept Him into our hearts, and He begins to change us from the inside out. At 52, I was stubborn and very bitter about church and ministers. But I still had a "God" shaped hole in my heart. With His help, forgiveness, understanding and blessings, and so many personal miracles to erase any doubt in my mind of God, I have changed. I am 60 now, it has been a gradual process. I believe I can help people by praying for them, and walking along side them for a while, as Jesus did with us during our most devastating moments. We - as you mentioned - must learn to forgive ourselves, that is true. But what a holy experience is when Jesus forgives all our own nasty little (and big) sins. He forgives and sanctifies us. Ya just gotta love Him! Your sister in Christ, Andrea (Excellent book!) By the way, there is a year long course (1st 20 weeks meeting once every week, then the rest of the year is meeting once a month to help each other understand our triggers, what they are, and how to take them apart when they happen. It is not a "Christian" course, but it is usually staffed by Christian volunteers, who speak softly and never judgmentally. The participants are not aware they are Christian. It is not about religion, it is about recovery. Check it out at emmaus.ca - I think the email address is execulink@emmaus.ca. It is totally free. Blessings! As a child abuse survivor (many beatings later), I think very kindly about 95% of your comments. The thread of karma can refer to anyone’s religion. I also believe that as the Roman Catholic Chuch has paid out over $1 Billion in claims against predatory priests molesting small children, that one has to sit back and wonder if chastity is appropriate for a pastor. However, as humans, we all slip and fall. As a committed Christian, I have watched those around me (not many, thank heavens!) fall in many different ways, to gossip, affairs, absconding with other’s money and yes, a couple to child molestation or “over beating” by the “religious” parent. But to put all religion in a garbage bag and throw it away, is not perhaps the most ideal concept. What I have learned by reading my bible and attending my evangelical church, is that when two or three are gathered in the name of Jesus, THAT is church. It is not about the decorations, trappings, rules, boards of elders, it is about having a real, lively, fun relationship with Jesus who came to earth to testify to the truth, and to die on the cross so we can all have eternal peace in heaven. It doesn’t mean you have to go anywhere any Sunday. Accept Him into our hearts, and He begins to change us from the inside out. At 52, I was stubborn and very bitter about church and ministers. But I still had a “God” shaped hole in my heart. With His help, forgiveness, understanding and blessings, and so many personal miracles to erase any doubt in my mind of God, I have changed. I am 60 now, it has been a gradual process. I believe I can help people by praying for them, and walking along side them for a while, as Jesus did with us during our most devastating moments. We – as you mentioned – must learn to forgive ourselves, that is true. But what a holy experience is when Jesus forgives all our own nasty little (and big) sins. He forgives and sanctifies us. Ya just gotta love Him!
Your sister in Christ,
Andrea (Excellent book!) By the way, there is a year long course (1st 20 weeks meeting once every week, then the rest of the year is meeting once a month to help each other understand our triggers, what they are, and how to take them apart when they happen. It is not a “Christian” course, but it is usually staffed by Christian volunteers, who speak softly and never judgmentally. The participants are not aware they are Christian. It is not about religion, it is about recovery. Check it out at emmaus.ca – I think the email address is execulink@emmaus.ca. It is totally free. Blessings!

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