Self Doubt in Adult Survivors

Doubting one’s ability, doubting our selves when it comes to decisions, interactions and our ability is a common side effect from being abused. Not only abused sexually and at the mercy of a perpetrator but being abused by a boss, a condescending husband, and any narcissistic individual. When we are young or even in young adult hood and we trust, we give someone a part of ourselves. We allow the other to take control, we believe, and eventually we find out we get hurt for their benefit. When this pattern reoccurs over and over, we become a victim of self doubt. From that moment on we have an up hill battle of doubt. So how is this relieved? How do we get on a track of empowerment, where we believe in ourselves?

1. We must get rid, if possible the perpetrator, the boss, the spouse who keeps us young, immature, and a continous feeling of helplessness.

2. Understand it takes time, and failures. There needs to be recurrent failures which we need to be comfortable with and with that will come some successes.

3. Self doubt is a delusion founded in psychological manipulation. The reality is we all have talents, beauty, and strength. We no longer have to succumb to anothers low self esteem, and their narcissistic injurious behavior.

4. When any athlete begins to experience their success their self doubt dissipates. So does our own accomplishments, however it takes time and an effort to at least try and implement decisions. Eventually we will believe in ourselves.

5. Surround yourself with those that know your strengths not with those where jealousy, injurious verbal statements, and torment feed them. Empowerment comes from a belief in yourself, the knowledge of choosing good peers, and finding support from those that love you, not placate you.

Self doubt, that dark cloud that seems to follow victims everywhere, however even dark clouds go away with a good strong wind. The winds of time will blow self doubt away, however it will take effort. There is no magic wand, no superior therapist, and not one self-help book that has all the answers. The answer is time, effort, and knowing your strengths.

Kick self doubt right in it’s doubtful butt, believe in yourself. Remember when you accomplished simple tasks, like learning script, driving a car, giving a speech, making someone laugh, coming up with a creative problem solving skill. You always had the ability, do not give some pathological demon the power to walk with you the rest of your life. Look in the mirror, appreciate what you see. Self doubt is a delusion, it does not exist in a reality format but in old past memories of ugliness. Move on, you will love the path you take, but you MUST at least walk the path.

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