Removing Ego = Humility

Ego, Latin term that means or translates to,” I, myself.” Freud spoke of the ego as that part of the personality that is conscious awareness. It helps make sense of the world around us. Today we look at ego as that of self esteem, or lack of or too much of persona. Many times individuals do not feel whole or have a fractured ego due to past traumas, bad experiences and seek to replenish that through relationships. Many have found benefit in solitude, being alone with themselves to get to know the original self. In abused victims this has proven helpful as well as those who have lived in traumatic relationships. I have many times went to the woods solo. It has helped me regroup, find myself, realize I am no one but someone. What? What in the hell does that mean? In the scheme of our planet, our society we are no more important than anyone else, yet we are as powerful as anyone to elicit change and help others seek change. Western culture has placed so much importance on materialistic items, desires of greed, objects, homes, cars, money, investments etc. ” If I only had such and such than I am somebody.” What a bunch of crap.

The more you own, the less you have! I am in the process of cleaning house. Dumping the majority of materialistic items, as well as cleaning my emotional house. In the absence of others we are left with our selves. Face the past briefly, realize it has shaped you to a degree. It  has formed your ego. Some to your disliking, and at times to your liking. Now, spend time in the PRESENT. The present is NOW. If you are going to be with someone, be with them one hundred percent. Stop the need to impress, stop the need to whine and complain about what you do not have. Enjoy the day, enjoy the smile of your loved one. It is a privilege just to hold one’s hand, it is a privilege to hug someone tight. We so often forget the simple pleasure in life. Dump the negative desires. When we shed our ego, our need to be filled up by compliments or other needs we are left with true humility.

I am no one special, I am nothing compared to an oak, a fawn walking behind the doe in the morning woods. How dare I compare my self worth to others based on degree, monetary gain, or any other Western society ladder rung. I cherish my relationship so much, that it causes me pain when I am absent from her. I experience pain when absent from my children. Humility the recognition of the insignificance of our being in comparison to the world and others around us. Through true humility we learn, we gain wisdom and them we can give back.

I speak here of the importance to find yourself, find yourself  AND BE HAPPY WITH YOUR SELF. When that occurs whether through your own enlightenment or through the assistance of a best friend  then and only then can you dance in life with someone. For me nature was my muse for years. It has been a life process to be happy with me. Now, finally I can revel in the joy of a healthy relationship. Life is much better with someone, to share in the daily tasks, then experiencing it solo. Chris McCandless from the movie,” Into the Wild” found that out too late, Hemingway found that out too late as alcohol took it’s toll, and the list is endless. Companionship, love, true friendship the ultimate emotional connection.

Have you ever watched the precision of a flycatcher snatch up a bug in mid air, or the perfection of a spiders web, the magical appearance of a rainbow, or the dedication of Canadian geese when both male and female watch over their young. Spend some time in nature. Come back and look in the mirror. How important are we? Take your loved one by the hand , feel their hand, their tendons, their veins. feel their pulse, appreciate that magical touch, that a slow caress can cause a rush of epinephrine to race your heart. Listen to all they have to say. Every word is meaningful. Time here is short. Enjoy the moment and revel in it, when you find that one person to watch the grey slowly salt one’s head, as you sip your coffee in the morning appreciate what you have. The seasons will continue to change, the difference, you will share them through the eyes of two. Removing your ego allows no more wounds, only wisdom and love. It is obtainable with staying in the present and finding that right person to walk through the seasons of life with. Remember, find yourself FIRST, then proceed. When you least expect it the karmic thread will present you with fate. Accept it and be thankful.

Become a fan on facebook. See the photographs of the actual oak tree and the authors home, as well as a sneak peak at the new book. http://www.facebook.com/pages/Above-His-Shoulders/274131107309?ref=nf