How to Get Help for Sexual Abuse or Violence?

Getting help is not difficult. It is reaching the point to disclose which is usually the first hurdle. My main goal in releasing the book, ” Above His Shoulders ” is to emphasize the importance and benefit to disclose.

Once the disclosure has been implemented, one can seek out a variety of avenues for obtaining help. It is this author’s experience, that usually individuals wait too long before seeking help. It is when these issues reach a crisis proportion that they are either forced to seek treatment or they experience intense personal loss.

We as a whole are a very defended society. We are defensive, and arrogant from a variety of stances. Whether it is politics,religion,parenting or accepting feedback from a loved one. Where has humility gone in our society? When one reaches humility and individual finds truth. It is then, one should seek treatment, not until the loved ones around you experience hurt.

Covering up with a facade of plastic personalities, and short term fixes are just that. When in reality the hurt still continues to bleed internally.

Finding a therapist should not be one phone call and done. The letters following the name are of less importance then their experience. Remember, you are the consumer. Go to a few therapists, find one you feel comfortable with. It will make the disclosure less stressful and trust can be established quicker.

Find individuals that have worked with sex abuse victims for greater than five or ten years. I personally had to filter through four to five therapists before I found an individual that not only kept me focused, but made me work.

Going to therapy for a once a week session will not be enough. It is the combination of reading, researching, exploration of how the previous abuse impacted your relationships, and how it molded you into reacting in a dysfunctional way with others.

You must be open. Trust the process, and have desire to move through the pain. Without the drive and motivation you may find yourself quitting and going back years later. That is actually part of my own story. We are all wired a little differently, each person is unique.

My personal bias is that you want a therapist who is dedicated and caring. A therapist that will help you travel back on your road map of life. Take you back into the valleys and the crevices of your life,taking you out the other side on a road of freedom and choices.

How the book,Above His Shoulders will help:

Getting help is described in the book through my failure in not wanting to look for help. Yes, many abused individuals are scared and in denial for too long. The book, helps individuals learn from my mistakes. Remember you are the consumer. Interview your therapist, do not just take and accept the first one. The book explains the importance of being open to all experiences that might be helpful. It is possible, I am much better today for having perseverance to seek out help.

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