How to Address Sibling Sexual Abuse with a Parent?

There is no ideal, perfect scenario to disclose any sexual abuse, let alone a sibling. If you have a close relationship with one or both of your parents then clearly a honest upfront approach is imperative.

Many therapists do not address issues like how? when? and where? If there is tension with your parents then I strongly recommend to obtain a therapist. Having a good therapist in the room at the therapist’s office helps a great deal.This is a neutral territory and not in the confines of your home. It also helps when the therapist can act as a mediator, should the intensity rise.

When? As soon as possible. The longer you wait the more the feelings build with no outlet of escape. Why continue to carry the burden? Find a therapist who you can relate to, Do not settle for the first one. Remember, YOU are the consumer, you need to assess the therapist for who you feel comfortable with.

At some point in your path to health,some victims find it helpful to confront the perpetrator. I personally found this to be very helpful when I confronted my cousin. It was a huge weight off of my shoulders, and he disclosed his guilt in front of my parents. This episode is in the last chapter of, “Above His Shoulders.”

Realize this is not easy, and not for every victim of abuse. The pay off can be great,and result in a path of life that is hopeful. You may be able to give back to others or just start feeling very good about yourself.

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