How to prevent child abuse?

In order to prevent child abuse as well as sexual abuse, we need to realize that the treatment of the perpetrator has a very low success rate. We MUST focus on prevention. The education of the child is of the utmost importance. As well as focusing on anger management of parents and caretakers.

There are few classes in high school to teach one parenting skills. When was the last time you took a course in college on parenting 101? Parenting is learned through experiential methods. It is when we watch our parents love, discipline, and teach. Hopefully, we are astute at witnessing their shortcomings and it is here we need to dump the negative attributes of our parents. We can then proceed with our own children giving them more positives in terms of parenting.

With prevention, we need to calmly reinforce the importance of open communication and explain the necessity of safety. We must give our children a safe harbor to communicate ANYTHING with us. Emphasize NO REPERCUSSIONS. Children are fearful, they feel they have done something wrong to deserve the abuse. Emphasize immediate disclosure without inducing hyper vigilance and paranoia.

This is not an easy task in a world with terrorists attacks, media hype, or fear that draws high consumer ratings. A snow storm coming within hours becomes embellished to blizzard proportions. We panic, run to the store, buy snow shovels, water, and other necessities. When in fact it becomes a light flurry of one inch of snow. Yes, it is important to prepare, hence one should be calm, explain the different outcomes, and focus on reassurance. That we will always be there for our children.

Communication and educating our children are the first steps in preventing any abuse. We must instill unconditional love and acceptance. With this foundation, we can make a difference.

How the book,Above His Shoulders will help:

During my life long struggle with my abuse I explain my mistakes. I am open and forthright about what I should of done. My path had to move in the way it did. I believe all life trauma happens for a reason. It does not have to happen. By reading the book, you can become a Monday morning quarterback, learn from my mistakes. You might be able to help.

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