Mistakes Into Gold

All of us walk the path of life making mistakes. It may be bad decisions in relationships, job choices, friendships, or financial. How do we turn these mistakes into golden opportunities? Recognition of the mistake is the first and most important ability. Not recognizing the mistake leads us into pathological repetition, and an absence of learning. Once we recognize the mistake one must become motivated enough through, guilt, pain,sadness or some emotional driver to seek out change. Not repeating the pattern is the largest challenge one is faced with. Book stores and talk radio shows are loaded with advice on how to turn your life around. There is no magic solution and no panacea to find utopia. Finding the reward in change, and the positive outcome should be enough to continue on a new path. Looking back can be helpful, for it is in looking back at the mistakes which gives us pleasure of our new changed life.

My abuse, elicited a large amount of distrust within me as well as bad judgement in relationships. I stayed in relationships too long for others. I tried to fix broken women, trying to be the healer not a husband. My mistakes are painted in my book, “Above His Shoulders” I now walk a different path. Looking back at how blind I was to my own behavior, I rejected love, not trusting that someone could actually love,”ME.”

Through my mistakes, I now walk more vigilant, wiser, and see the positives and happiness in life. Money, divorce, and depressing individuals cannot hurt me. I refuse to allow the negatives of life to drag me down into the depths of  depression. Finding someone who actually believes in you, that truly loves you for who you are, is an amazing find in life. When that occurs, do not let it slip out of your grasp. This is the beauty of unconditional love. Someone that accepts All of you. Arguments around mundane daily issues are just that. The foundation of love , true love cannot be measured, cannot be graphed, and cannot be taken for granted. There is a FAITH that takes place, a belief in one another that bonds as tight as any glue.

For a time, the term soul- mate became popular and the term was tossed around in books, card shops and self help groups like WWJD bracelets at an Evangelical church gathering. Soul-mate, a mate bonded by the soul. How? What is that? It is the intensity we feel when we meet our love, we struggle with the feelings and we need to label it with a term. Why? As humans, specifically the white race we need to label, measure and quantify everything even religion. Find the Dead Sea Scrolls.Find the Shroud of Turin. Find the proof in the Bible. Interpret the Bible this way, No! this way. Old Testament vs. New Testament and on and on and on. Native Americans have intense faith, other cultures have intense faith. A faith in what we cannot see but what we feel. Acknowledge your mistakes, FEEL THE POSITIVE CHANGES YOU MAKE. It is through the positives and recognizing your feelings that Gold will be placed before you.It may be in  the form of a child, a new relationship,a sunset, or maybe a mirror that you look at and recognize the smile that smiles back at you is a person worth getting to know.

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