http://www.abovehisshoulders.com Book offering a true account of child sexual abuse, its impact on relationships, and the emotional survival and healing Fri, 30 Apr 2010 15:17:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/externalizing-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-2823 Dan Sun, 11 Apr 2010 14:43:40 +0000 http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/?page_id=407#comment-2823 Maria, As I am sure you are aware the externalizing blame factor, as well as not taking responsibility is endemic in our country. It appears to be excessive around our country. From political agendas, right and left, religious, and personal. Your journey, no matter where it takes you will be fraught with these individuals. You are now an expert in recognizing their personality. Avoid them, surround yourself with happy, goal oriented, humble individuals, live life to it's fullest. You are deserving. Good luck with your book. Maria,
As I am sure you are aware the externalizing blame factor, as well as not taking responsibility is endemic in our country. It appears to be excessive around our country. From political agendas, right and left, religious, and personal. Your journey, no matter where it takes you will be fraught with these individuals. You are now an expert in recognizing their personality. Avoid them, surround yourself with happy, goal oriented, humble individuals, live life to it’s fullest. You are deserving. Good luck with your book.

]]> http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/externalizing-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-2821 Maria Sat, 10 Apr 2010 20:42:49 +0000 http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/?page_id=407#comment-2821 Maybe that's why I seem to have such a hard time being in Kokomo? I just get so sick & tired of all the judgmental attitudes, the blaming, lack of responsibility, and people making fun of me for wanting to move back to Bloomington (Indy is #2 choice) when I have "everything" made here, and for wanting more for myself. I have seen the error of my ways of being the "yes" girl and the scapegoat of the family. For instance, the healthier I get emotionally, and the more I continue to heal from the car wreck as well, I I can see more possibilities. Also, thanks to you more possibilities have opened up that I never would have thought possible as well. I am not willing to tolerate the fact that others do not want to take responsibility for their own mistakes either at the restaurant (work environment) or in their personal life. Staying here only hampers my own healing and journey towards what I am working on professionally as well as personally. I have learned the very hard way, unfortunately, that they can blame others all they want to for their past errors but that is their issue and not mine, and the longer I stay here "trying" to change things for the better, the more I tend to caught up in the spider's web. Then the tide changes at times and I get blamed for something that has never been my fault in the first place. I am finally starting to take a firmer stand and say No More. Thanks again Dan. Maybe that’s why I seem to have such a hard time being in Kokomo? I just get so sick & tired of all the judgmental attitudes, the blaming, lack of responsibility, and people making fun of me for wanting to move back to Bloomington (Indy is #2 choice) when I have “everything” made here, and for wanting more for myself. I have seen the error of my ways of being the “yes” girl and the scapegoat of the family. For instance, the healthier I get emotionally, and the more I continue to heal from the car wreck as well, I I can see more possibilities. Also, thanks to you more possibilities have opened up that I never would have thought possible as well. I am not willing to tolerate the fact that others do not want to take responsibility for their own mistakes either at the restaurant (work environment) or in their personal life. Staying here only hampers my own healing and journey towards what I am working on professionally as well as personally. I have learned the very hard way, unfortunately, that they can blame others all they want to for their past errors but that is their issue and not mine, and the longer I stay here “trying” to change things for the better, the more I tend to caught up in the spider’s web. Then the tide changes at times and I get blamed for something that has never been my fault in the first place.
I am finally starting to take a firmer stand and say No More.
Thanks again Dan.

]]> http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/externalizing-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-2769 Sarah Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:31:44 +0000 http://www.abovehisshoulders.com/?page_id=407#comment-2769 Love this one as well. Love this one as well.

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