Abuse of all kinds, sexual, emotional, physical can have lasting effects on one’s self esteem. It can shatter one’s confidence, rip apart one’s soul, and foster inadequacies and support a very poor self esteem. When we love these individuals, whether they are adults or children we see their positive attributes. We see how caring, how beautiful how appreciative, as well as their inner and outer beauty.
Imagine if they could see themselves through our eyes, so they could see what we see. How wonderful it would be for a child to see their potential when they feel inadequate. A woman who has been ridiculed for years, if she could see how lovely she is and how her decisions are actually on target.
That is what therapy is all about, having an objective observer, act as a traffic cop, guiding and empowering, hoping the individual not only sees their beauty, and attributes, but believes them.
If all the hurt people, the sad, the abused, and those struggling to find themselves could see themselves through our eyes. The Downs Syndrome child is full of love, seeing the positive in all, no matter the race, their history, or their shortcomings. Ah yes, to see individuals through rose colored glasses, now we have to try and get those individuals to look in the mirror and see who they really are.
This process is not easy and filled with road blocks, walls of the past, and old habits. There is NO reason to dwell and fall into a depression. It will do no good, serve no purpose. Realize processing old habits, old behavior will NOT move you forward. Focus on all the positives in your life, what you have, who loves you, and where you could be going with different perspectives. Change is not just a thought process away but more importantly an action away. Push through it. Do it. Who knows what the karmic thread will deliver, maybe someone may stop by on your path and make you a bit richer, in more ways than one.
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