Above His Shoulders

Thank you to all of the fans, and the interest in Above His Shoulders, as well as the wonderful feedback. I am truly touched by the wonderful compliments. My presentations have been filled with caring individuals, and a special thanks to the women and men who have come forth with their own abuse stories.

All of you have made a difference and have helped with donations.

Sex abuse and the secrecy it carries can be broken, strength can be found and a new path can be carved out. No one should live in fear, and all have the right to be happy. Let us continue to make the book a success, pass it on, spread the word, support those to disclose their perpetrator and find your own inner strength to move past the trauma.

One step at a time, and all of us can find freedom and continue to fly towards future goals. Each of us can help another, speak up, NO MORE SILENCE !

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Hauntings of the past. A frequent and distressing commonality with all who have experienced some form of abuse. Would appreciate any feedback, personal experience, and stories that might be able to help others.

Dan Williams

author, “Above His Shoulders”

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“Rather than love, than fame, than faith, than fortune..give me truth.” H.D. Thoreau

“Start Talking, Stop Child Abuse.”

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To all  ”Above His Shoulders” followers! Thank you very much for making the book a success. We have been able to donate towards treatment centers, and make individuals aware of the horrific events of abuse. Better yet, individuals, men and women have come forth to tell me they have disclosed because of my book. I could not receive a better compliment. If the book does not sell another copy, I am so fortunate and happy that I have been able to make a difference.

That is what life is all about, making a difference, one person at a time.  Let us all keep up the good work. Who knows, just maybe we can save a child before the abuse begins.

To see more of my writings go to www.helium.com

Dan Wiliams

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It has been studied, researched, and founded that humor reduces stress, puts cancer in remission, and helps create a pleasant path in our life. Please feel free to visit our editor’s creativity at www.cafepress.com/sarkazo

SARKAZO, GIFTS OF HUMOR !!   Move past trauma, re-frame your life show others stress will not keep you down.

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Humility equals wisdom!  Life is not about who has the most toys, or who has the most money. Life is appreciating the simple, loving your friends and family, and doing the very best for your children. It is not the extremes, the right or the left but the grey that keeps us healthy.

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As of 7-23-09 we are proud to announce,” Above His Shoulders ” is ranked NUMBER 3 on Amazon’s List of Best Selling Sex Abuse Books!

Also ranked in the top one hundred of all Best Selling  Motivational books. Thanks to all who have contributed and enjoyed the book. Let us keep helping children. When it is all said and done it will not matter what is in our bank account, but what will matter is whether we changed the life of a child for the better.

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To all my AHS  return visitors and new comers. I will be donating fifty percent of all proceeds to treatment centers across the United States for abused children.

It is time to start giving back. To what end do we need to collect items, update electronic toys, and try to inflate self worth with materialistic items? Living life to its fullest means being humble and giving what we can back to those who are less fortunate.

This is my attempt to not only tell my story but to give back financially.We all can make a difference. Stop trying and just go for it.

Thank you, Dan Williams, author.

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I  frequently speak of nature and  the effect it has on my own anxiety and stress. Nothing is a panacea for all our stress or dysfunction. Those addicted to the urban excitement and plethora of theaters, concerts and sporting events with restaurants at a click of a mobile GPS defend their turf with honor. I lived in New York for four years. It was addicting in the beginning and exciting. The noise pollution, and calloused attitude of  its inhabitants barely clouded the East coast arrogance. This could never of been portrayed so eloquently as the famous picture on the cover of the New Yorker Magazine where the city is predominantly the  nucleus of the United States and everything West of the Hudson is barren and not worth viewing.

Remember our roots. ALL of us came from rural settings. At one point if you trace your family tree long enough you will find some relative working the field or blue collar job to help progress the next generation. Those that are moved by the sunset, the solitude of nature, and the serenity of a placid lake while a loon breaks the water’s plane have to be more in touch with something deeper than themselves.

Lay on a blanket on a cool summer night.  View the sky and the multitude of stars, and planets. Even space is being cluttered now with numerous satellites. a reminder of man’s invasion of yet another arena that was once pristine. We are only a humble speck amongst all living creatures.

For myself nature is the, “absolute truth.” Nature will not lie, our woods our streams will be there for us to immerse ourselves in from a total sensory experience and if we so choose a spiritual one.  My dearest best friend gave me a framed blade of grass for Fathers Day. Why? She frequently wants me to meditate on a blade of grass when I stress. It was initially humorous and then became serious. I cherish this gift. It was one of the most thoughtful, dearest gifts I have received. How symbolic. One blade of grass can be so powerful. Sometimes we should re-look at all living relatives, even a blade of grass. One grain of sand, one blade of grass, one leaf are all important creating a whole for us to enjoy.

Frustrations of life continue. Success is measured frequently by how much is in our bank account, the value of our car, and what college our children attend. My son is a doctor, my daughter is going to Harvard, no, mine is going to Princeton, to what end do we become blinded by status and false illusions of power, and money. When was the last time you heard  a  parent brag how their child has such a deep appreciation for the outdoors? Or my child wants to make a difference by giving back to others.

It is time we instill some basic values, and not emotionally whip or children in a direction of status. Those with the most toys in the end does not win! There is no winning and losing in life. There is only living. It depends how happy you want to be while living. Walk barefoot in the grass, feel the breeze carees your face, embrace the simplest virtues around you. They have always been there, but have you always been aware of them ?

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When a dear one leaves this earth we mourn. All of us are effected differently depending on how close we were to the person we lost. Victims of abuse also mourn. We mourn our loss of dignity, the trauma of not wanting it to occur in the first place, not having courage to come forth, or feeling we could of done something to avoid it.

Selfish behavior occurs when we think, or perceive we are benefiting at the expense of others. That my dear AHS followers is selfishness. The only way mourning a death of a loved one becomes selfish is if we take time away from the living, or we decrease our love for the ones around us due to our mourning. It is healthy to mourn, cry express.

Yes our deceased loved one would want us to party, laugh, look back on their teachings and move forward full steam ahead. There will never be a replacement for the loss. There cannot be a spiritual band aid to cover the hurting soul. Time plays a large role in healing, as well as support from loved ones. Death has been viewed as an ugly, obtuse, mystery. Mostly in our society than others. Many cultures for generations recognize the loss and sadness but appreciate and celebrate in a variety of ways. One does not even need to bring religion into this conversation. Celebration of death can be the celebration of new beginnings. It is so hard to move past generations of stereotypes on death. The loss is real, the sadness is real but selfishness, NOT A CHANCE!

Distortions of our thinking are usually placed there through years of implementation by parents , spouses or friends. The way we learned it in the past is NOT necessarily the way it is now.As  my dear mentor Dr. Hammerschlag frequently states. Learn new ways, new paths, accept the fact it is OK to feel. As it is ok to express your feelings. It would be selfish to keep your feelings in and not share them with those that love you the most, that is SELFISH. Cry, take a walk, accept your feelings, own them as yours and hold a lovers hand in support. Revel at the beauty of nature, our deceased relatives are all around us in the beauty of life.

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